It's Not Wrong to Be Introverted, the Problem Lies in Poor Expression

1. The Stigma of Prejudice

Since I was a kid, I often heard people say, "Why are you so introverted? Why are you so quiet? Why don't you like to talk?" Relatives and friends around me always told my parents, "This kid can't talk and doesn't even say hello when seeing people. What will happen when he grows up and enters society? How can he make a living without knowing how to socialize?"

In the eyes of the elders, introversion seems to be a flaw. They think that being inarticulate means having a low EQ and not understanding the ways of the world, and such people will surely not succeed in the future. Even after I graduated from college, they still said the same thing. They believed that it didn't matter if you couldn't talk well when you were a student, but once you grew up, graduated, and entered society, you should be more sweet - tongued, learn to greet people more, socialize more, and be good at speaking.

2. The Essence of Expression

These words once made me wonder if introverted people have a harder time making a living and achieving success in society than extroverted people. But later, I found that what really affects whether a person can achieve results or "do better" is not whether they are introverted or extroverted, but whether they can express themselves, which is extremely important.

Some people may say that extroverted people are good at expressing and speaking. Does it mean that as long as you can talk nicely, you're good at it? Actually, it's not. True expression is not simply being "eloquent". It means speaking rationally and being able to convey your meaning accurately and effectively, making communication more efficient.

The key to expression is whether you can clearly convey your thoughts to the people you want to know, such as your boss, clients, or partner. Talking a lot doesn't mean it's useful, and being able to talk doesn't mean you're good at it. Just because you talk a lot doesn't mean others are willing to listen, nor does it mean you're good at expressing.

You can be introverted, but you can't be bad at expressing. If you don't know how to express yourself, you'll really be at a disadvantage in social and workplace competitions. Expression is a way to actively fight for your rights and opportunities.

True expression doesn't necessarily have to be face - to - face. If you're not good at communicating in front of many people or don't like noisy occasions, you can choose to communicate through writing, live - streaming, private chatting, or one - on - one offline conversations. It's okay if you don't like crowded places.

3. Advantages of Introverts

I've met many people and found that some extroverted and "social - butterfly" types are very good at showing themselves at various offline conferences and events and can handle themselves well in crowded places. Introverted people may seem shy, but once they enter their familiar fields, they can talk non - stop and gain people's trust and recognition through their professionalism.

They can also convey their ideas by writing high - quality articles to gain trust and recognition. However, if you only focus on technical research and don't want to communicate with others, although you can survive, you'll be at a disadvantage compared with those who are good at expressing, given the same abilities.

If you don't actively express your efforts and achievements, how can others know? You can't expect everyone to take the initiative to understand you. As the old saying goes, "There are always a great number of steeds, but not always a large number of horse - taming masters." If you don't actively show your abilities and achievements, the chance of others finding you will be very low. And the harsh reality is that most people are not "steeds".

If you're not a "steed", you should express yourself more actively. For those who like to study technology and specialties, "talking more" here doesn't mean flattering or networking. It means showing yourself in a professional way. Making friends with others is not the only option. You can show yourself through your works and professional abilities, turn your achievements into articles or products, and let them speak for you. This way can also let others know you.

Don't simply think of expression as chatting or flattering. The essence of expression is to convey your thoughts and opinions. Writing articles, making videos, and using social media for dissemination are actually more efficient ways of communication. The content you post can interact with many people. An article, a sentence, or a video may be seen by thousands of people.

This kind of dissemination efficiency is much higher than offline socializing or face - to - face communication of extroverts.

4. Low - pressure Expression Methods

If you're introverted and easily shy and dare not speak in front of many people, you can try writing. Using words to record your thoughts and communicate with others can also help you solve many problems. This way of expression is very useful in the workplace, life, and business. The key to expression is to convey valuable content.

The core of expression is content, and content is traffic. Only with traffic can you do more things. Writing an article is not that high - end. As long as you can talk and type, you can write. You don't need much literary talent. The most important thing is to express your thoughts clearly. The key lies in how to accurately convey your opinions.

I've seen many people who seem introverted to outsiders but are actually very good at writing. For them, writing seems to be a more suitable way of expression and a stage for them to output. So they spend more time on writing, and naturally, their expression ability is more prominent.

People who are good at writing can also speak well to a certain extent. Especially those who like to write using voice, their real oral expression ability is not bad. They just prefer to express themselves in specific situations or fields.

Generally, extroverted or socially - skilled people like to express themselves more in crowded places and are not limited by situations and fields. They can talk about any topic. Introverted people prefer to express themselves in fields they are familiar with, good at, or interested in. They may talk less in other fields and are more willing to listen.

Practicing expression and writing is very important. In essence, they are ways to actively convey your opinions to the outside world and let others know you. In reality, taking the initiative can bring opportunities. This has nothing to do with whether you're introverted or extroverted. The key is whether you take the initiative to fight for them. It's a matter of probability. Those who take the initiative have a greater chance of getting opportunities.

5. Long - term Compound Interest

I want to emphasize: don't give up just because no one pays attention to your expression. Many people find that when they start expressing or writing, no one cares about their content. There are no likes, comments, or messages. They feel neglected. But think about it the other way around. How much feedback have we given to others? Probably not much.

This is a reciprocal process. Many people in the world are used to just watching and not doing, just watching and not speaking. So, you should keep expressing and creating. One day, your past expressions and content will be noticed.

Daily Reading & Writing by Xiaolu 2025.08.04【day700】