Want to Change Your Fate? Change Your Circle First

1. The Invisible Transforming Power of Your Circle

Your circle matters a great deal as it can totally change the way you think. A person's growth doesn't just start with reading books or writing. Instead, it begins with changing your social circle and environment.

When you step into a brand - new growth environment, the information you get, the world you see, the people and things you encounter, and the stories you hear will all change. Your experiences and knowledge will also be different.

For example, if the people around you always chat about trivial family matters, like who got divorced, who got married, or what happened in someone's family, it's hard for you to find the motivation to do other things in such an environment.

But if the people around you love reading, you'll unconsciously start reading too. If they're into researching how to make money, do business, run a self - media account, or start a business, you'll also start thinking about these things and work towards them.

2. The Law of Information Density

I had a chat with a friend over dinner today, and we talked about this topic. The higher the information density and quality in your circle, the faster you'll grow.

But it's important to note that just being in a good circle or environment doesn't mean everything will get better automatically.

Just like when we were in school, if we got into a key school, a top high school, or a good university, the students around us became more excellent, and the teaching resources and environment improved.

Sure, such an environment can raise your lower limit, but it doesn't mean all students in good schools will do well in exams. Some students may fall behind or even give up.

After all, school is an environment you can't easily leave, while online communities are more flexible. You can choose whether to join or not, and there's no external constraint.

3. Why Most People Are Stuck in the Spectator Layer

For instance, you join a community with a great learning atmosphere. There are all kinds of activities, and everyone is very active. However, many people still choose to give up after a while, thinking they can't do it or it's too tiring to keep going.

At this time, you'll easily mute the group chat messages, stop participating in activities, and stop paying attention to the group. You might even leave the group without any loss, and no one will stop or urge you. As a result, it's still hard for you to really change yourself.

This is like many people who buy a lot of courses, sign up for many classes, and join various training camps but end up with no real gains.

They just watch the group messages every day but rarely take real action, so it's hard to achieve actual results. Maybe they'll gain some knowledge and have something to talk about with others, but that's all.

In a group of a hundred people, such people may account for 30% to 60%. The 80/20 rule exists everywhere. For example, twenty people in a hundred can really take action, and among these twenty people, only 20% may finally succeed and achieve results.

As long as you can get into a good circle and keep doing, expressing, and sharing, you have a chance to be one of the 20%. Whether you can finally achieve results depends on whether your direction is right, your continuous investment, your focus, and your luck.

On this journey, people will stop, back off, or keep going at each step. We don't need to always compare with others. It's more important to focus on our own rhythm and see if we're moving towards our goals.

4. The Boundaries and Costs of Your Circle

Although I emphasized the importance of your circle at the beginning, and it's indeed true, it's not a magic pill or a life - saving straw.

Never regard anything as a life - saving straw. All results are the outcome of multiple factors, including people's influence, the environment, the platform, luck, choices, personal efforts, perseverance, and cooperation.

If someone tells you that you'll definitely make money or change your fate just by joining a certain circle, community, or signing up for a course or buying a product, don't believe it.

These are all lies. There's no such good thing. Don't believe any promise of getting something for nothing. If there were such a "good thing," there would surely be a high cost or great risk.

Many people are often deceived because they're too greedy. They always want to get big returns with small investments and regard some things as life - saving straws.

They know it might be a scam but are still tempted, thinking they're smart enough. As a result, they may take risks.

They want to prove their value to the people around them, so they take a tiny chance, hoping to turn things around. But usually, the more they want to turn the tables, the easier they are to get trapped and end up in a worse situation.

For example, some people borrow money to invest. They put in hundreds of thousands of dollars but end up losing it all. They don't really understand the project; they just follow others because they're told it's a great and profitable project.

They think others can make money and they can just follow and get a share. They think they can make money easily without doing much. But there's no such easy thing in the world. Trying to make money without any effort usually hides huge risks and traps.

From this perspective, it proves the importance of your circle again.

5. Value Screening

If your circle is positive, with good values, and people don't have bad habits or strange ways of making money, like doing things by any means, being greedy for small gains, or trying to get rich overnight, it's hard for you to get involved in bad things.

Even if you encounter something bad, you'll quickly realize it's wrong. Such a circle may not make you rich immediately, but it can help you avoid many pitfalls. Saving money is also making money.

After all, health is wealth. Nowadays, when many people get sick, not only are their bodies and work affected, but they also have to pay a lot of money to the hospital every month or even every year. Some people can't even maintain their lives with loans. This kind of situation is quite common.

Be clear about your values and principles. Make friends with people with good character and values, and gradually stay away from those with distorted values, improper behavior, and problems in dealing with people.

In this way, your environment and circle will get better, your life is more likely to get on track, and your chances of making money will also increase significantly.

This is a truth that everyone can understand. Maybe they can't make you rich in the short term, but in the long run of three or five years, their help to you is immeasurable.

Xiaolu Daily Reading and Writing 2025.08.02【day698】