Woken Up: If Your Biggest Pain Is Going to Work, It Means You're Doing Well

If your biggest pain is going to work, it means you're actually living a pretty good life.

I was woken up by this sentence, which is the title of a WeChat official account article. After reading the content, I found it quite reasonable.

There are so many things in life that are more painful than going to work.

If going to work is your biggest pain, it can prove several things:

1. You have a job, and it's relatively stable. You're not short of money in the short term.
2. You're in good health, with no major illnesses or you rarely get sick.
3. Your social relationships, such as family, are in good shape.

Only when these three conditions are met can going to work possibly become the most painful thing.

After all, being short of money means there's a problem with survival. At this time, you're not thinking about how painful work is, but where your next meal is coming from.

Whether it's the pressure of personal survival, mortgage and car loan payments, or the pressure from education, medical expenses, etc., they're all much more painful than going to work.

Good health is almost the top priority. What can change a person? A serious illness can.

Physical pain is unavoidable and the most direct. Sick people are extremely vulnerable, and this vulnerability is not only reflected in the body but also in the mental aspect.

If you have the energy to care about whether work is painful, it means there are no obvious problems with your body, though it doesn't mean you're completely healthy.

Good family relationships are very important. There's a saying, "Harmony in the family brings prosperity to all undertakings." Similarly, if family relationships are not harmonious, the feeling of discomfort is stronger than when dealing with other relationships.

If you can't handle the relationships with your boss and colleagues at work well, you can avoid them or handle them coldly. But you can't avoid family relationships.

The cost of changing a job is relatively low, but if you want to "change" your family, the cost is extremely high, and there may even be endless entanglements.

But the question is, we're not comparing who has a harder life, but trying to live a better life and pursue happiness. So, how to solve the problem of feeling painful at work?

Why is work painful?

1. You get low pay, have a lot of work to do, and it's so tiring that you don't have any time for yourself.
2. You don't have a sense of achievement at work and can't find a way to realize your self - worth.
3. It's too tiring and complicated to handle interpersonal relationships.

To solve the first situation, you must improve your own abilities.

Only when you're capable enough can you have more choices and say in employment and work. This can't be solved by simply adjusting your mindset. You need real - world abilities.

The problem of not having a sense of achievement and not finding a way to realize self - worth belongs to the aspect of mindset.

You can work with an entrepreneurial mindset. Treat yourself as the protagonist of your work when doing every task. Maybe you'll have a different perspective.

Or temporarily detach yourself from work and focus on realizing your self - worth in fields outside of work.

In fact, in many cases, the so - called realization of value comes from helping more people.

As for the complexity of interpersonal relationships, you can either choose to change the environment, find a way to deal with it that suits you, or simply not get involved.

Although doing so may make you lose some so - called benefits, this is a trade - off that you have to face.

Life is like playing a game and passing levels. There will be new monsters and new bosses at each level.

You have to constantly accumulate new experiences, figure out new skills, and find your teammates to pass the levels.

Each level is difficult, but you can pass them all.

Daily Reading & Writing by Xiaolu 2025.03.21【day564】