You're Truly Awesome, Believe in Yourself

Actually, you're really amazing, and this point must be emphasized again and again.

Why am I saying this? Because most people lack self - confidence.

From childhood to adulthood, we've been in an educational environment full of comparisons. Parents always compare us with 'the kid next door', 'kids from relatives and neighbors', or even classmates in the class.

After all, there are definitely people more outstanding than you in this world, and that's a fact. I've often been told by parents or teachers, 'You should compare yourself with the top - scoring students.' When we grow up, the comparison might shift to work and making money. In short, it's all about constantly comparing upwards.

From the perspective of progress and growth, comparing upwards and learning from outstanding people makes sense.

We can observe what they do and learn from them. But don't let this comparison become a tool to put yourself or others down, or you'll fall into self - abasement, which won't do any good.

Many of the classmates I know, regardless of whether they have side hustles or how well they perform academically, generally lack self - confidence.

Unless someone is born confident or achieves great success at a certain stage, they might have a brief moment of pride or confidence, and even seem a bit arrogant and complacent. But this state is usually just temporary, and actually, many people have never really experienced this kind of temporary confidence.

For example, in the workplace, some people get high - paying jobs by luck or opportunity, like earning hundreds of thousands or even millions of dollars a year.

At this time, they'll really feel like they're 'amazing' for a while.

But why is this feeling just temporary? Because once they enter this level, they'll quickly find that there are many people around them earning more than them, and their confidence will be shattered.

The same goes for side hustles. At the beginning, when you achieve remarkable results, you think you're great. But when you enter a higher - level circle, you'll find that there are more outstanding people around you. So, confidence is often just temporary.

At this time, you'll feel that your achievements are nothing special. I've had this feeling too. As long as you keep comparing upwards, you'll always find many people more amazing than you, and you might feel inferior in all aspects.

The key to personal growth is believing that you can do it before you can actually achieve it.

If you don't believe in yourself from the bottom of your heart, you'll be indecisive and self - critical when doing things. You might even deliberately fail or give up at crucial moments.

For example, when facing a challenge like passing a level, running, exercising, or rock - climbing, you're just a few steps away from making it through. But because you don't believe in yourself, maybe due to past failures, you'll bring those negative impressions into the new challenge.

Even if you've never tried before, you'll doubt whether you can succeed. Especially at critical moments or when facing difficulties, you'll question your abilities and think that others can do it easily while you can't.

In the end, you might choose to give up, which will strengthen the idea that 'you're not as good as others'.

You'll think that others are both excellent and amazing, while you're vulnerable. This impression will keep getting deeper.

But in fact, they might not have it as easy as you think. People usually don't want to show their failures and embarrassing moments. Just as I said before, it's best not to expose your scars before you succeed, or others might use them against you.

There's an interesting saying on the Internet that I really agree with: When you think someone is doing well, it means you're not close to them. Only when the relationship isn't very intimate will you think the other person is living a good life, because you can only see the positive side, like what they post on their social media or what they say in casual chats.

But when you really get to know them, you'll find that they also have a lot of difficulties, like health problems, family changes, or issues with their kids. For example, they might have an unsmooth job and often work overtime. These are things they won't talk about with people they're not close to.

No one wants to pour out their troubles to someone they don't know well because it's useless. So, what we usually see is just the glamorous side of others.

Every year when I go back to my hometown and listen to my family chatting, I have this feeling.

I'm not very familiar with my relatives, but my parents know their situations. After listening to what my parents say, I'm always shocked to find out what their families are really like. But in daily interactions, you can't tell at all because people don't talk about these things all the time.

As someone not very close to them, like a passer - by or an ordinary colleague, it's very hard for you to know their real situations. They might be facing a divorce or their kids' employment problems.

After saying all this, I just want to tell you that you're actually really amazing. Being able to live a normal life in this world is already good enough.

You just need to believe in yourself, do well in what you're doing right now, and trust that you can make it.

Daily Reading & Writing by Xiaolu 2025.07.05【day670】